How to Use Breathwork for Anxiety: What Women Over 40 Need to Know
If anxiety has been showing up lately, Sigmar Berg has a different explanation for where it's coming from. He is the founder of Lovetuner and a mindfulness expert who has spent over a decade at the intersection of breath, sound, and nervous system regulation, and his argument is that most of what we experience as anxiety is actually a body problem, starting with the way we breathe.
This is for you if you've been thinking:
I've never been an anxious person but now I'm anxious about everything and I don't know what changed
I've tried meditation and my brain won't shut off, it doesn't work for me
I know I'm supposed to breathe deeply but I honestly forget, and I'm not convinced it makes a real difference
I keep hearing about breathwork but I don't have 30 minutes a day to just sit and breathe
I've done talk therapy and it helps, but my anxiety still shows up
I'm skeptical about sound healing and frequency work but I'm open to hearing about it
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Why Anxiety Might Be Starting in Your Body, Not Your Mind
Most of us have been told that anxiety starts with a thought. Something triggers, the mind spirals, and then the body catches up: tight chest, racing heart, that low-grade dread that settles in. But Sigmar Berg argues that the loop often runs the other way. The body sends signals to the brain first, and when those signals read "danger," the brain produces anxious thoughts in response.
This matters because it changes where the intervention needs to happen. If you're trying to think your way out of anxiety, through willpower, cognitive reframing, or just telling yourself to calm down, you may be working against the current. The nervous system responds to physiological input, not intentions. That's why a few slow, conscious breaths can interrupt a spiral in a way that talking yourself down sometimes can't.
For women in their 40s and 50s, this is especially relevant. Hormonal changes during perimenopause can make the nervous system more reactive, which means you may be more susceptible to the kind of fight-or-flight activation that shallow breathing keeps running. The good news is that the breath is always available, all day, for free.
How Your Breathing Pattern Keeps You Stuck
Most of us, according to Sigmar, are breathing just enough to get through the day. We're not thinking about it, we're not doing it well, and we're keeping ourselves in a low-grade stressed state without realizing it. Shallow, fast, chest-level breathing, which is how most high-achieving, fast-paced people move through their hours, mimics the breathing pattern of someone who is under threat. The nervous system often can't tell the difference.
Sigmar uses an image of a Husky living in California, panting constantly because it belongs in Alaska. That's what we're doing. We're running a physiological marathon every day because our breathing pattern is signaling to the nervous system that we're in a sprint. And the more anxious we feel, the faster and shallower we breathe, which sends more danger signals, which produces more anxiety. It's a loop.
He also makes an interesting point: the cigarette break was, underneath all the obvious harm, a forced conscious breathing break. People stepping outside, filling their lungs, slowing the exhale, connecting with others. The ritual did something real. The invitation is to bring back the ritual, minus the cigarette.
The fix isn't complicated, but it does require noticing. Most of us go hours without paying any attention to how we're breathing. Sigmar suggests inserting conscious breathing pauses into the day, not a full practice, just a few intentional breaths, often enough to shift the signal the nervous system is receiving.
What the Extended Exhale Actually Does
If there's one breathwork principle worth knowing, it's this: an exhale that is longer than your inhale activates the parasympathetic nervous system. That's the rest-and-digest state, the biological opposite of fight-or-flight. And you can get there in under a minute.
The physiology is straightforward. The inhale is connected to a slight increase in heart rate; the exhale is connected to a decrease. A longer exhale tips the balance toward calm. It doesn't matter much whether you're practicing 4-7-8 breathing, box breathing, or just a simple breath in through the nose followed by a slow exhale through the mouth. The mechanism is the extended exhale. Sigmar's instruction is simple: start by emptying the lungs completely, blow out as much as you can, then inhale through the nose and make sure the exhale is longer and slower than the inhale.
Do this a handful of times. That's it. You don't need 20 minutes. You don't need to be sitting still or following a script. You need to notice that you're chest breathing or holding your breath, and redirect for a few cycles.
Where Sound and 528 Hz Come In
Sigmar created Lovetuner, a small single-note flute that you exhale into, producing a tone at 528 Hz. He didn't choose that number arbitrarily. 528 Hz is one of the ancient solfeggio frequencies, a set of tones with roots in healing traditions going back thousands of years. It's sometimes called the "frequency of love" or the "DNA repair frequency," and it occurs naturally in living matter: the hum of bees vibrates at this frequency, and chlorophyll in plant leaves resonates at 528 Hz.
The most compelling evidence Sigmar points to is Masaru Emoto's research on water. When 528 Hz was played near water, the water structured into a perfect hexagonal crystal pattern, the same shape found in pristine mountain spring water. Given that the human body is 75-80% water and blood is 91% water, the implication is that frequency has a measurable effect on the body's composition. Japan recently released treatment protocols using frequency-based therapy for cancer patients, with 528 Hz as one of the primary frequencies used, citing cell restoration and repair.
For skeptics, the breathwork benefits of using the Lovetuner are on solid ground regardless of where you land on the frequency question. The tool gives you an audible cue for the exhale, making it easier to sustain and feel the practice. The tone tells you when your exhale is dropping. You inhale and go again. For people who struggle to maintain a breathing practice, the sensory feedback matters. The frequency, Sigmar believes, heals on a cellular level in ways the breathwork alone does not. You get to decide how far down that road you want to go.
FAQs
Can breathwork actually help with anxiety, or is it just a relaxation technique?
Breathwork does more than create a sense of calm. When you slow your breath and extend your exhale, you directly stimulate the vagus nerve and activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which is the measurable biological opposite of the stress response. Research on slow breathing interventions consistently shows reductions in anxiety, improvements in heart rate variability, and better stress regulation over time. It works especially well for women in perimenopause, whose hormonal changes can make the nervous system more reactive and anxiety harder to manage through thought alone.
What is 528 Hz and why does the Lovetuner use it?
528 Hz is one of the ancient solfeggio frequencies, a set of tones found in healing traditions across cultures for centuries. It occurs in living matter, including the hum of bees and the vibration of chlorophyll in plants. Researcher Masaru Emoto found that when 528 Hz was played near water, the water structured into a perfect hexagonal crystal pattern. Because the human body is 75-80% water, some researchers believe this frequency has a direct and measurable effect on cellular function. The Lovetuner is built around this frequency because it combines the proven nervous system benefits of extended-exhale breathwork with the proposed cellular benefits of this specific sound.
How long do you need to practice breathwork before you feel a difference?
Less than you think. Even three to five slow breaths with your exhale longer than your inhale can begin to activate your parasympathetic nervous system. It won't erase an acute stress response on the spot, but it gives your nervous system a clear signal to start downshifting. For lasting change, Sigmar Berg recommends brief conscious breathing breaks inserted throughout the day rather than one long formal practice. Two or three intentional pauses of even one minute each, done consistently, can meaningfully reduce baseline anxiety over time without requiring a major schedule overhaul.
What's the difference between breathwork and meditation? Can I do breathwork if meditation doesn't work for me?
Yes. Breathwork gives the mind something concrete to do: track the breath, feel the physical sensation, notice when the exhale is dropping. Mindfulness meditation often asks you to observe your thoughts without attaching to them, which can feel impossible when your mind is already racing. Breathwork sidesteps the mental noise by giving you a physical task. Many women who say meditation doesn't work for them find breathwork much more accessible because there's no right way to think during it. You just breathe.
Meet Sigmar Berg:
Sigmar Berg is the founder of Lovetuner, a breathwork and sound healing tool featured in CNN, the LA Times, and Buzzfeed.
He is the author of One Journey and has spent over a decade working with the 528 Hz solfeggio frequency and breathwork as tools for nervous system regulation and cellular healing.
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Jessica Long (00:00)
So anxiety is so common in midlife women. Even women who've never experienced anxiety before can all of a sudden be crippled by anxious thoughts on repeat of like horrible situations when they hit their 40s and 50s. And I think a lot of us tend to think that anxiety starts in our brain. It starts with a thought, and then we feel sweaty palms or a racing heart or a upset tummy. But
What I'm hearing from you is that we might have this backwards. Is it possible that anxiety actually starts in our body and with how we're breathing?
Sigmar Berg (00:37)
Yeah, Jessica, this is absolutely right. I mean it's like it's it's a misconception actually. We think that we think wrong, or like especially the group of women that you are referring to. this is like when you are highly alert and you think, I have the wrong thoughts and whatever, if it's hormone driven, whatever it is. It's not the thought basically that triggers the body. It's most of the time the body gives you an upfront signal. And if you like whatever you can
It then anxiety really arises. So if if you pay attention to what's going on in the body, it might help you not to get from whatever into a stressful situation, and from the stressful situation into anxiety into a panic attack. So this is all goes off and everything starts in the body. So if you consciously breathe, if you recognize that you're a shallow breather, that actually you are in a fight and flight mode situation consistently and you don't relax.
this is exactly what's happening. So it goes basically the other way around, you know, like the body basically sends a signal to your brain based on not enough oxygen, high level low chest breathing, quick breathing, and then you feel like you have anxiety, but it's a physical phenomenon more than a mental one.
Jessica Long (02:00)
It's so interesting because I have been learning a little bit about this through my breath work certification program and work that I've been doing recently. And I'm learning how so much of this actually starts in the body, but we've just been so conditioned to not pay attention to our body's signals until they're screaming and we have to pay attention. And I would say most of us go throughout our day without ever noticing how we're breathing. And when I do, and I'm a breath work facilitator, I will see I'm mouth breathing.
And it's pretty shallow. Why am I, what am I doing? Why am I doing that? So how do most of us breathe throughout the day? And for those of us who catch ourselves breathing like this when we think we're calm, why are we doing that?
Sigmar Berg (02:47)
I think that most of us just don't pay any notice. They're not you know, they just breathe enough to survive.
and and they don't even know how important it is. Everybody has the fear of drowning or being suffocated, but still, you know, we pay no attention to the most important thing we do unconsciously. You know, we just breathe to survive and to make it through the day. And if you recognize that the breast is your best friend, you know, like I always tell people, you come into this world, the first thing you do you inhale, the last thing you do you exhale. And in between the breast is really your best friend.
So it's you know, like we have all these mortalities of meditation and and yoga and whatnot, but you can, you know, like calm yourself so easily by just changing the pattern of how you're breathing. And if you do this, then you know, like you you are a winner, you know, because you can regulate yourself. You don't have to call your therapist, you don't have to take medication because a lot of stuff really starts with just not be consciously and not.
Enough breathing. You know, it's like you know, your your brain doesn't get enough oxygen, your nervous system is firing high alert because you're breathing like if you'd be running away from something, what I referred earlier to the fight and flight mode. And if we get a little bit more mindfulness to our breastwork or just the regular breathing two in a day, then I think you can solve a lot of anxiety before it even starts, because the body gives you exactly the signals.
And if you consciously step away and go like, it's time to inhale, you know, to fill up my lungs and slow down the exhale, and then you will feel that this anxiety that you think comes from sometime somewhere else is really coming from your own body. And and I always say this, you know, like we back in the days when everybody was smoking and now the kids and everybody is like vaping. But what people really misunderstand is that the so-called smoker cigarette break was
actually the first conscious breathing break for a lot of people. So if if the cigarette would not be so negative with whatever chemicals, tobacco and whatnot, what we all know, the actual ritual of smoking is fill up your lungs and exhale. And most
Jessica Long (05:12)
Well, isn't
that so interesting? I have never thought of smoking with a positive spin, but now I'm imagining that we're all going outside for our smoke break sans a cigarette. So I don't mean how great would that be?
Sigmar Berg (05:26)
Absolutely. I mean, you know, we all talk about building communities and having this tribal bond. But I mean back in the days the smokers have been connected. You know, first of all, you have to go somewhere outside, you have to meet up, you know, you basically standing sometimes to whatever co-workers or or or strangers and you're smoking, and this was actually a ritual. And let's bring it to our days now. Why would it be cool if people walk outside there in an office facility?
facility,
they walk down to the street or whatever company they're working in, and they're standing together and so like, hey, let's breathe in, let's breathe out. So I think it's it's something what what people should really reconsider, no? And maybe
Jessica Long (06:09)
I mean, so you're
talking to a group of Gen X women, and I I know I'm not the only one who's thinking about that episode of Friends right now where Rachel tries to pick up smoking because all the smokers are talking about important things at work and she's missing out. So she tries to take up smoking just so she can be in. But what you're saying is so interesting because it it wasn't just about the smoking, it was the community connection, which is we also know is a pillar of our health from the blue zones, right? Like having community, talking to people, connecting.
not being solo all the time. So there's more benefits that you are getting. But I'm I'm wanting now to start a movement of the cigarette last smoke break.
We're on to something, Sigmar.
Sigmar Berg (06:51)
I think so. That's a the next community building, the next tribal movement.
Jessica Long (06:57)
So okay, I want to go back to something you talked about, like when we're a baby, the first thing we do is inhale. And we inhale, we breathe diaphragmatically when we are babies. So this shallow chest breathing is a learned response. How does that happen? How do we learn that? And then why does it perpetuate?
Sigmar Berg (07:15)
I mean, I don't know exactly when we learn this, but I think it's very related to our society, you know, because our s society is so quick paced that it gives nobody even the freedom to for example when people eat, you know, like we all know you should chew like thirty times. Who who does it really? You know, people go, fuck, eat and done, you know. And
Jessica Long (07:35)
Yeah, yeah, not me.
Sigmar Berg (07:37)
And
and very similar it is with breathing. So we are in such a fast paced society and this is why when people go to whatever to a yoga retreat or you mentioned Costa Rica and the blue zones, this is where they literally relax, you know, and then you see that their breathing pattern automatically slows down. But if you're in a fast paced around environment like in the Western world, in a city where it's fast, you know, you're on the phone, you're thinking, you're typing an email, you're jumping in a cab, whatever
you have to do it's all fast paced so you're basically running a marathon and and this is why we be we breathe so shallow so we are we're actually breathing in a way that we are always in this in this alert state of mind and and this is I don't know when it's happening but I think it happens pretty early because kids are already stressed out in preschool you know they're they're stressed out in school so this kind of self-made stress
just follows us through our entire life.
And and most of the time, unless you're an athlete and you learn how to breathe, because whatever you're a swimmer, whatever you are, or you need to be careful when you're a long distance runner, you pay attention to your to your breathing because you have to. But if you don't do this kind of practices, you go through life basically always like like a husky, you know, a husky that lives in California and belongs to Alaska is constantly patting. You know, this is what we are doing. You know, we are like this dog that has the
tongue out because it basically shows the stress volume that we have to handle and if you don't know a mortality to reset to go like at least whatever twice a day to a conscious breathing break you know and every time when something comes up to you in a day go like hey listen and notice the signals in your body.
Jessica Long (09:29)
Okay, so if we don't wanna be panting huskies, which I don't think we do, we have enough problems with our hormonal fluctuations as it is. You're saying the best thing to do is just insert some pauses into your day. And maybe that even means putting it on your calendar. And you won't necessarily know how you're feeling at twelve fifteen or whatever time you made your appointment, but it doesn't matter really, right? It's the pattern interrupt and just the tuning in. So
I like to talk about it as quieting the external noise and actually just focusing inward, taking a few deep breaths. Cause once you quiet what is coming at you constantly, that's when you can actually hear what your body's telling you. And again, like I know that sounds woo to some people, but I'm telling you, like if you actually sit and try and listen, you will probably hear some messages coming through. And it can be anything from like a physical standpoint, like I'm kind of sore from that workout or
Let's get up and walk. Or it could be, I don't want to say yes to being on the PTA this year. That just sounds really awful. Can we say no? And like your body will tell you your truth if you pay attention and listen. So, so how
Sigmar Berg (10:40)
Yami I sorry.
Jessica Long (10:41)
do you think is the best way for us to start bringing this habit into our life?
Sigmar Berg (10:48)
I mean I think the most important thing is the overall understanding because we we always long on the outside, you know, like help with the best friend, help with the therapist, worst case medication and so on and so on. And then we do this like once a year or twice a year, quick retreat, a quick fix. But at the end of the day, and I always like to quote Carl Jung here, you know, when you look on the outside you become a dreamer. When you go inside you awaken. And I know it sounds so woo-woo to so many people.
people. but I mean I'm in this industry for so long and and for me it was not like that I had to learn it, it came naturally. But the mindfulness aspect is what
what we should focus on, you know, and everybody that tells you, yeah, I have no time to sit and and and and and listen to myself. It's I I was working with a lot of meditation gurus and they said if somebody says I have no twenty minutes to meditate, they tell then sit in two sit two hours. And that's really what it is, you know, because
Your
body will talk to you, you know, and you will have the first time the peace of mind to literally listen to yourself, you know, and even if it's only your heartbeat, your breasts, whatever it is, and it centers you. And and it's not comfortable because everything comes up, what you just said. Whatever goes to your mind comes first, all the noise. And at one point, when it starts stops to be uncomfortable, when all those noise, all those thoughts quiet down, what happens is you find
this calmness in with yourself and what this signals your body to your brain is basically I'm safe, I'm protected, and I'm in charge. And this is all the three points that you want to achieve.
Jessica Long (12:34)
And so if we want to introduce these pauses into our day and check in with ourselves, do we have to breathe deeply? Does it matter if it's through our nose or our mouth? Or is there other breath patterns we could do like box breathing or four, seven, eight breathing? What do you think is best for midlife women experiencing anxiety and overwhelm?
Sigmar Berg (12:56)
I mean
There's so many breathing modalities, you know, like a a lot of women do yoga, so you learn how to breathe there, then you have box breathing, you have Wind van Hof. There's so many modalities, but rarely during the time during the day you have the time to step away into a full-on breathing cycle. But what everybody can do is like to first of all exhale. So empty your lungs, really like pff just exhale and then consciously inhale through your nose and then slow down your exhale. And if you do this like a handful of time
you will see already that the urgency goes away.
And and I mean it's not about like promoting my product, what I obviously do, but I invented this love tuner and it does exactly this. So this is like the quick helper. So you do a conscious breathing break, and the tone it makes this 520 hertz frequency, gives you an audible feedback to your breastwork. So you know exactly when the tone changes, that your exhale is dropping, you inhale again, you do it again. But obviously you can do it by yourself without any tool, just by by inhaling.
First of all, exhaling as much as you can, two, three times, you know, blow it out and then sit quiet or even if you stand up, and then inhale through the nose and just make sure that the exhale is extended and slow.
Jessica Long (14:15)
Because that will bring us into the parasympathetic state, out of that sympathetic state that we are constantly living in. So that's what creates the change in the state of the nervous system is the extended exhale. So you you brought
Sigmar Berg (14:27)
Yeah, yeah, and this is the
Jessica Long (14:29)
up your love tuner, which is like a little single-note flute that you can exhale into, and you said it creates a sound, a tone at 528 hertz. So I also want to talk about this whole concept of sound and what effect that has on our.
biology, our nervous system, and why specifically 528 hertz. So I know I just threw five questions at you, but tell us more about bringing sound in and why that particular sound is so helpful.
Sigmar Berg (14:59)
I mean the five hundred twenty-eight hertz frequency is a so-called solfagio frequency. It's one of the oldest ancient healing frequency. It's not a man-made frequency. It occurs in every living matter in the humming of the bees. when you measure leaves, for example, chlorophyll vibrates on five hundred twenty-eight hertz. That is also why this frequency is on the color spectrum green. So there's a lot of like
nature related and so-called spiritual related powers to this frequency. And when I started working with this frequency, we have been studying a lot of reactions onto water. And one of the main books that we found was from Emoto, The Hidden Messages in Water. And so he was actually playing music to water, like whatever, from motor to speed metal, and you could see how water reacts. So you can look at the microscope what water does and it literally gets scared.
Or it makes like beautiful flower-esque crystal patterns. And he also tested 528 Hz on water. And when you play this frequency on water, water structures into a perfect hexagonal crystal shape like a mountain spring. And what is the conclusion out of this? Is our body is to 75-80% water, our blood is 91% water.
So when we are exposed to frequency, to vibration, something is happening in our body. And this is like actually our this is how when we started with love, you know, we saw this reaction in water, and we said this is why humans will react to vibration and sound. And in whatever, in ancient societies, throughout like whatever, starting with the Egyptians, they healed with sound healing. They knew the power of sound, and I mean now in the last like
I would say 10-15 years, sound healing is known. You know, people know the effects. And Japan just released the first mat pads where they are actually healing cancer patients with frequency. One of the main frequencies they're using in this treatment is 528 Hz, and it can really cure cell restoration. So the 528 Hz frequency for Angela is anti-aging, and it's also called the DNA repair frequency. So, this is like we have been working with
This frequency now for over 10 years, and now it's becoming more and more established. And and the power of the frequency is is amazing. And your listeners are all mothers, mainly mothers, so they know exactly what it means. You know, when you hold up a baby, you know which sound you are making, you know. So you are humming, you're like comfortable with your baby. So at this point, it's all frequency and vibration. You know, nobody grabs a baby and
talks
like tough language, you know, this is the complete opposite. So I think naturally we humans know what vibration and frequency is, because on a negative level, when we go out on the street and we hear street noise or whatever, the scratching on a chalkboard, that really scares us. It's because, my God, it sounds so bad. So when we have a negative reaction to frequency and vibration, then there must be also a positive one. And this is the healing effect of frequency and sound healing.
Jessica Long (18:22)
Okay, so for the skeptics who are like, dude, what are you talking about? Like if I blow into a flute, I'm gonna all of a sudden be healed. I know that's not what you're you're implying. But what can someone reasonably expect? And let's again go back to a midlife woman who is very high achieving, super intelligent, super productive, gets it all done, but just feels overwhelmed with how much life is throwing at her. What can she reasonably expect to
feel or notice if she uses the love tuner. So if she's taking a deep breath in through her nose and then blowing through the tuner through her exhale and not only getting that extended exhale, but hearing that frequency.
Sigmar Berg (19:04)
Yeah.
So, I mean, you know, like everybody knows the benefits of breastwork. This is like nobody says that's that's wu-boo. And everybody knows the benefits of meditation. And if you combine those two, this is actually a mindfulness practice. And no matter if you call this wu-boo or not, if you have it done it once, you will recognize it. And the love tuna combines exactly those two elements. So it helps you to do a conscious breathing break and the vibration of the
Instrument goes measurable into your body, it aligns your water molecules in your system and it gives you the physical feeling of relaxation. I mean, I get it when people say divine frequency, you know what I mean. Then it gets maybe too woo-woo for people, but I always say, listen, if you're not open for miracles, you know, you will not you will not have one, you know. Then you have a very shallow life experience, and especially when we get older, you know, it gets pretty boring when you do over and over.
same thing and the only thing is that you're getting a decade older and not a decade older and you still have the same consciousness. So I think you know panic and anxiety and hormonal changes in women and men, you know, are horrible if if you don't elevate your consciousness. So it's like for me the woo-voo thing is always the people that when they turn 40 and they still pretend, hey let's live like if it's 1999 and and we you know we're gonna be 25 again
and twenty-five again, you're not, you know, and by what happened, twenty years you wake up and you're sixty years old and you really miss the train, you know, and this train is called consciousness. So the Vu Vu thing is something, it's an investment in the future.
And the same thing is with the love tuna. It's it's something, it's a small tool, and if you do it, there's two things that are happening: you regulate you like your nervous system, and you are strengthening your lung volume, you're improving your immune system, and the frequency you will feel it as soon as you do it. But it's not something where you go, like, hey, it's like a pill, you know, like I take a pill and I'm happy, but it's something that happens.
Slowly but constantly. And every trauma that we have in the body didn't appear within one day. You know, like all the stuff that sits deep in us is happened on a cellular level. And every damage, every hurt, every trauma you have is captured on a cellular level. So you can go to a therapist and talk about it for 15 years, you know.
It will help you, whatever mortality this person is telling you, to get over it or understand it on an intellectual level, but you cannot release cellular drama in a spoken therapy. Cellular drama only gets released through breastwork, through meditation, or in this case love tuna, because it's really sound healing and frequency healing. So you basically heal on a cellular level.
Jessica Long (22:03)
I've been learning so much more about exactly what you're saying. And I do find it so fascinating. And I I think it's important to note too that like talk therapy is super helpful. It just might not get you all the way there. And actually think about how compounded the benefits could be if you had a body first practice too, like breath work or another another somatic practice, if that's what you want to choose. So the idea is that you have.
if you like the brain first approach, keep doing that. Add a body first approach and then see what happens. And what you were saying before, too, about just opening your consciousness. I mean, I've seen that in myself. I've opened up so much more in my 40s than I ever was. I was way more like head first, logical, want all this, you know, the evidence. And I still like science and evidence, don't get me wrong. However, I'm finding it to be
so much more fulfilling to live with a more open mind, a more open heart. And to your idea of miracles, it reminds me of Kathy Heller's advice, which is the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning is you say, I wonder what magic is in store for me today. And if you actually approach your day with the thought that magic is gonna happen, I just don't know what kind of magic.
then you expect it to your point. You have to like expect the miracles and believe in them. And if you do, you'll see them. If you don't, they're happening all around you and you're missing them.
Sigmar Berg (23:30)
Yeah, I mean, you know, and and f for you women it's anyway your nature to be more aligned, you know, with whatever is spiritual. So we men have been conditioned to be rational, to do this and that, you know, this why we die early and whatnot. But at the end of the day, you know, I think the feminine side is this being aligned, being more in tune with nature. And I think if you bring this back, it will also help you do so harmonious.
changes,
you know, because it's just like it's not about high performance, you know, it's about how happy you are. And this is the happiness you can only create from inside. And this is related to higher consciousness. And this is also like accepting who you are.
why this is happening to your body, you know, why you know we are built in this way, why you're going through these phases of what are misery for 10 years, if you call it misery, but maybe it's a transformation, you know, a transformation into something beautiful. And and aging is nobody wants to age, you know, like it's it's it's not in our concept, but if you appreciate you know that you get not only older, that you also get wiser and and as you just said, you know, let a little bit magic in your day.
And and you know, watch the small things, you you can become very, very happy as unhappy you got in the times when you did it in the wrong way.
Jessica Long (24:56)
Yeah, I totally agree. And it's like just have an open mind and open heart to trying new ways to nurture yourself and feel good. I mean, for me, that's on in the middle of my walk, I pull over to the side where there's a creek. I take my shoes and socks off and I walk in the creek and I actually touch Mother Earth and I start to feel her energy pull up through my feet. And I would have thought that was woo 10 years ago. And now it's one of my favorite things to do. So let's be open to the evolution, to changing, to
Trying new things. Sigmar, thank you so much for your time today. I'd love to end on what is your best piece of advice for a midlife woman who is dealing with anxiety, overwhelm? She's like, I don't know how I'm breathing. I don't have time to fit in a whole new self-care practice. Like, what what do you think is your best piece of advice for her to help her feel a little more connected to herself?
Sigmar Berg (25:53)
I think stop the thinking and enhance the feeling.
I think that's the most important thing. And what you just said at the very end, you know, stepping into a creek where there's water running, to be really like just more in tune, you know, like to understand that we are battery, you know. If you ground it, you know, you get good energy from the top, you let it into yourself and it you know, you it's a cycle. And if you understand it, that's the most important thing. So get away from this analogical thinking and become more body again, you know, and then I think this will
help you the most. You know, don't overthink it, don't over talk it. And what you just mentioned about the Greek, I I wrote a book, it's called One Journey, and it starts with me standing in Malibu at my ranch and hugging a tree. And I say right away, if I would have picked up a book like this fifteen years ago, I would have stopped right away reading and said that's not me. But that's really what it is. This is who we are and this is what makes us happy in the long run.
Jessica Long (26:54)
Yes, and permission for those things that make you happy to change over time. Okay. We don't have to hang on to our previous selves. Thank you so much. Where can everyone find you and learn more about the love tuner and your book and all of your work?
Sigmar Berg (27:07)
best thing is to go to love tuner.com. There you find the product itself. There's also a lot of guidance on the how to use it. And there's also a link to the book. And it's also available on Amazon. It's called One Journey, the Love Tuner Book.
Jessica Long (27:21)
One journey, we know it starts with a tree hug. Thank you so much.
Sigmar Berg (27:26)
Thank you for having me.
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